“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.”
– Melody Beattie
Happy New Year!
2018 is behind us and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready for the fresh start that is 2019.
Christmas and the holiday season is lovely, but in the last few years, I’ve found myself clinging onto the festive season less and less. I mentioned on twitter yesterday that New Year’s Eve is a little bit strange for me. I tend to get really emotional and even nervous over the fact that the year is ending. It’s a tad daunting and I dread it every year. A few lovely people responded saying they feel the same way, so it’s nice to know I’m not alone. By New Year’s Eve, I am over all of the festivities and ready for life to return to normality, while scoffing leftover mince pies, of course.
Once the new year ticks over, the dread dissipates and I start to think about what I want out of the year ahead.
I did a blog post one year ago, outlining my goals for 2018, so I thought I would make it a yearly tradition and do the same this year.
I briefly mentioned last year that traditional resolutions aren’t for me – I think ‘resolutions’ (or more so, the word itself) are a little cliche and maybe even pointless. I feel the term ‘resolutions’ implies that you need to make a vow to change yourself in order to be happy and live a fulfilling life, which when made in the wrong mindset, can be incredibly toxic.
I believe setting goals is a much better approach as they give you direction and a clear vision for you to strive towards, meaning you are more likely to achieve them (or at the very least, make positive progress towards), compared to a resolution. Be honest, how many times have you set a New Years resolution only for it to be thrown out the window by the second week of January? In many cases, they aren’t sustainable. Goals, however, are generally more attainable.
However, with that being said – if you like the word resolutions and you like setting them, go ahead and do so. Do what works for you.
Now, without further ado, here are my 5 goals for 2019.
1. Reduce unnecessary purchasing
Confession: I’m an impulse buyer. And impulse buying for me results in a lot of unnecessary clutter. In 2019, I want to adopt a more minimalist approach and cut down the number of unnecessary products I purchase. That means that adorable notebook/stationary set that will no doubt end up sitting on my desk underneath a pile of other items that are unused will remain in the store and not come home with me. I’m not saying I’m going to stop altogether, because that is way too unrealistic and never going to happen, but minimising how often I do so and becoming more selective and mindful of my purchases is a stepping stone for positive change.
2. Say yes to things I would normally say no to (within boundaries)
Opportunities often arise and we sometimes say no to them for whatever reason. In 2019, I’d like to say “yes” to these things more often. I don’t know what is going to happen this year, so I don’t have anything specific to mention that I want to say yes to. We’ll just have to wait and see how things pan out.
3. Face a fear / Donate blood
This is a two in one goal. I want to face a fear this year and I would also like to donate blood. Seeing that I have a fear of needles, I thought the two went well together. Donating blood is something that has been on my mind for a while now and this year I’d love to finally do it, and face my fear of needles while doing so.
4. Do some form of yoga/mindfulness at least 3 times a week
Towards the end of 2018 I’d been doing yoga almost every day and in December I successfully completed a “30 days of yoga” challenge. I would love to keep this up and continue doing yoga regularly as doing so recently has made me feel amazing – mentally and physically.
5. Learn a new skill / learn to cook
This is another two in one goal. In 2019, I’m turning 20, so I’m thinking I should probably learn to adult a bit better. You could argue that adulting is a skill in itself, but the skill I’m going to focus on this year is cooking. I already love baking, but cooking is a little different. I would love to expand my cooking repertoire to something more than two-minute noodles and grilled cheese sandwiches.
What’s a goal you want to achieve in 2019?
– Karen xx